It’s strange, this digital age. It affords us novel ways of finding out information. Information that perhaps otherwise would never have got to us, or would have arrived way way down the line when memories were so very dim.
I recently decided to do a little catching up with some people I have been out of touch with for far too long a time and facebook provides a wonderful opportunity to do that.
However, it was only to discover that Rich, a guy I lived with for the first year of uni, has died, a little more than a year ago now. Even though we drifted apart once we lived separately, he was a really close friend during that first year and we continued to have great fun when we met up during the rest of my time in Bangor.
I have written a little on the Group that is in memory of him on facebook but even so, and although I know that no one who reads this knew him, I felt the need to write a little something here as well.
He was absolutely part of the formative experience that that first year of uni is, part of introducing me to lifestyles different from my own. He and Chris and Tanya and Jen and I banded together on our first days in halls and now it seems strange that none of us keep in contact. I suppose, like many groups that form through uni, we had little in common besides being assigned to the same floor in halls and so, once we lived apart, we drifted apart too. But what fun we had, bantering about, over Tanya’s endless stream of boyfriends, often several at a time, Chris’ failure to attend lectures, ever, my obsessions with films. At Rich’s money-making schemes, his bling, his hip-hop, his drugs, his alcoholism. For I wouldn’t want to suggest that he was a perfect person, and it seems it was probably the drugs that took him in the end. But then none of us are perfect people, and Rich had many admirable qualities – a warmth and approachability. A willingness to share and an ever-friendly, trickster grin. And it is always terrible when someone like that goes.
It seems, searching through my files, that I don’t have a single photo of him – quite, quite remiss, and a reminder of how recent the ubiquity of digital cameras is. So I shall steal one from his facebook group, looking like the imp he often was.

And so. That is that.